48 ( +1 | -1 ) The best thing...One of the best things to find in chess, is a chess partner of an equal calibur... Playing many times a weekend and a few nights of the week... You learn to grow in strength and sharpen your tactical skills together... But make sure when you play, to play an equal or more advanced opponent... But remember when you play a more advanced player than yourself, not to get discouraged... It's the only way to grow...
We learn by our mistakes in life... Why should chess be any different...
50 ( +1 | -1 ) your idea is childishi hate to say this,especially if you are older than me ,but disgusted to chess because you losing?if you have that thought in mind,there will be a small chance that you are going to succeed at anything.Everybody loses sometimes so theres nothing to be hurt about. I think play with the opponents with about equal strength will keep you up since you are not going too lose too much(if you are then your opponent dont have equal strength with you).
130 ( +1 | -1 ) What I'm saying should not necessarily apply to you, just a general observation.
Some people are not cut to be competitive chessplayers. That's just the way it is. Not everyone has the talent to become a concert violinist, not anyone can be a mathematician, and some lack the aptitude to the world of chess competition.
In order to become an effective competition player, you should treat losing in the right proportion: you should hate losing just enough to motivate you to improve, but not hate it too much - hating losing too much paralizes you, and prevents you from rising up to new challenges.
If, on the other hand, you want to spurn the world of chess competition and just use the game as a fun hobby, then you should know that there is nothing wrong with this approach! Chess is an enjoyable game, and you should do whatever makes you enjoy it more. If you feel that playing against a certain player makes you enjoy the game less (because he wins all the time? because he trash-talks? because he plays the French defense?) then by all means, don't play him.
I think that at this junction in your chess development you should first decide wether you want to become a competitive player or a recreational player - what you will do next will depend on the answer to this dillemma.
86 ( +1 | -1 ) Why play???It would be interesting to ask the question “why do we play chess”. (In the words of a great soccer player - it's a funny old game).
As with music and with maths, chess is one of the few disciplines that a child can excel at once the basic concepts are internalised. This is not surprising since the game of chess combines both the rigour of maths and the cadence of music.
So back to the question and the point I am trying to make... I suggest looking afresh at the game of chess and think of it more as learning to play a musical instrument than a quick scrap with your buddy in the street...
"The winning" is good but it does not teach the same way as "The loosing" :-)
The practice and the playing are the heartbeats of the game, the pain is the living of the game, the not playing is the silence of the game.
My advice, flex your fingers, take a deep breath, go pick up your instrument and "get back in the groove"!!
67 ( +1 | -1 ) Get away from there, pick some chess books, play with different group of people, and get back for revenge when you think you have improved.
Emotionally it is difficult to beat a player who tends to win against you while he is your only sparing partner.
Skill of players with your rating will surely get boosted by reading chess books. Bottom line, you still have many chances to improve and hence to beat opponents you used to lose against. If your rating is 2500 and you tend to lose against one player, whatever you do it will be difficult to beat him unless you are more intelligent.
50 ( +1 | -1 ) I recommendplaying lightning for a week or so. Play 1 or 2 hours a day or whatever time you can spare - 5min time control or the 2-12 default time control that some sites have is good. Approach each session with a plan in mind - e.g. try out new openings, see what style of play suits you, or try out whatever you want to learn. After a while you will develop a feel for certain openings or types of position and this in turn will give you the confidence necessary to increase your win %.
51 ( +1 | -1 ) LOSING IN CHESSdont be disheartened my friend about losing i lose quite a few of my matches but i notice that i seem to learn more with a loss as opposed to a win winning all the time makes you arrogrant chess is all about experience and practice if you lose go back over the game see what moves you could have changed, see what moves your opponent did to put you under pressure and make sure that in your next game you put what you learned forward with you GOOD LUCK
120 ( +1 | -1 ) Losing is an important part of chess!!Everyone enjoys winning it can truly be said.The truth i believe is that it is only through losing that we learn.when you win it is often just repeated stuff we have already learnt.When you lose it is very disapointing and you must fight hard to hold but in chess you must learn to be objective and look to what is wrong with your game.Maybe a missed tactic or blunder or maybe your playdidnt suit the position.When looking through your game dont get a negative head on and just say i played poorly ,for if you do you will not see what you did wrong.Just objectively look to your play and see where improvements could have been made.Try and find positives in your position and in your play as well as negatives.Myabe even find mistakes your opponent made.essentially try and learn as much from it as you can.For me over the course of many years i have done this and learnt quite a bit though i am merely an average player.For every game i win now i have lost at least 100 in the past.For if your opponent has beaten you with a strong attack maybe it will work for you:)...
14 ( +1 | -1 ) Just......condition your mind that you have to win some and lose some.